The manic phase was already in progress by the time I started doing a massive decluttering of my home. I joined the ClutterDiet site on or before February 22nd, 2009. The manic phase was at least going pretty strong at that time. I remember going through a few days of hemming and hawing before finally deciding to go ahead and join the site.
I think the phase may have even been going prior to my hiring the cleaning lady. I’m not sure when that was in comparison to the ClutterDiet, though. Give or take a week or so I guess. (My sense of timing is kind of skewed right now.)
I have to say that this was the most productive manic phase ever. I got all the clutter boxed up and moved out of the extra bedroom and into the shed richard bought me. We moved richard’s ebay stuff into the extra bedroom. The closet of the extra bedroom is now set aside for household supplies and such. The wall that had Richard’s ebay stuff is now lined with some short bookshelves that hold our board/card games, video games, movies, etc. It looks really nice there, and the living room is much more inviting than it was.
The result of this mass clutter boxing and moving out of living areas is that the house feels less overwhelming, and is demanding less attention, and laying on less guilt for it not being clear.
The ClutterDiet book will help me with refining each room in the house and helping me in that actual decluttering process.
A couple of concepts I learned from it are
a) Establishing a purpose to each room, the activities required for achieving that purpose, and keeping only the tools (stuff) that are used for achieving that purpose. For example, in the bedroom, one of the purposes is to sleep and wake up. For this I need a sleeping area. For this sleeping area I need something to support my body (a bed, and pillows), keep me warm at night (blankets), and darkness (curtains over the windows). To wake up I need an alarm of some kind and/or lighting. So we have the sunrise alarm attached to a bedside lamp which slowly goes on, to wake us up.
After establishing the purpose and main items needed to achieve that purpose, then it’s pretty easy to figure out what actions are needed for the care and/or maintenance of those items. For example, to keep the mattress clean we use a bottom sheet. To reduce how often the blankets need washing (since they are so heavy/bulky) we use a top sheet. To keep the pillows clean (to reduce how often they need washing), we use pillow cases. The sheets and pillow cases get washed once a week, the blankets get washed every other week to once a month, and the mattress gets aired out 2-4 times a year.
In this way, the household chores aren’t some arbitrary assignment, but serve a purpose, and the purpose is clear.
b) Future Self – in which you do things now that your Future Self will appreciate your having done. This was probably one of the most helpful concepts I got out of my time at the ClutterDiet site. It helped not only with the decluttering process I was going through, it also shows up in day to day actions when I’m tempted to put off an action. I’ll remind myself that my Future Self would appreciate it if I did that action now instead of forcing her to try to remember to do it, or for suffering the consequences resulting from NOT doing it.
It also is helping me figure out which of my many hobby attempts are ones that are actually worth spending time and energy on. One night I was laying in bed, talking to my Future Self, and running through a list of hobbies, asking her which ones she appreciated my spending time on, and which ones where kind of “eh”, and which ones seemed to be a waste of our time/energy. Drawing was an “eh” one. Music was a “yes” one. And gardening was a “oh yeah!!!” one.
There was such a strong reaction to the gardening one, that she wanted to have experience and knowledge of gardening, that she wanted to be harvesting fresh lettuce and other vegetables from our own yard, that I started looking into gardening.
I found a system called EarthBox which makes home gardening really easy. Expensive initially, yes. But seriously easy for getting started. It’s a self watering container that uses a plastic mulch cover (to reduce water evaporation, weeds, and insect penetration), and a “side dressing” of fertilizer (which is covered by the mulch cover which prevents the nutrients from being washed away with water/rain). Each container with casters and first season’s lime and fertilizer and covers costs about $50. In total we got four EBs and 3 railing planters. I should have gotten two more EBs instead of the railing planters. I think I would have preferred having the lettuce in an EarthBox instead of in the planters. Those planters have me paranoid about the watering and such since they aren’t self watering. While the EarthBoxes I don’t feel so paranoid about, I feel relaxed about them.
Anyways, so I got those, went to the forum dedicated to the EarthBox, and started checking out library books about gardening. I made my own Potting Mix, and using that and the EB ingredients I planted 4 broccoli, 4 cauliflower, have room for 4 brussel sprouts when the weather is ready for them, one row of peas, with another row ready for beans when the weather is ready for them, an EB full of carrots, and the planters are set up for lettuce, chard, and green onions. (two lettuce planters, and the chard and green onions share one).
So far, the broccoli and cauliflower are doing well, those were transplants. Lettuce is sprouting up and so are the peas. I think I planted the carrots too early and that they won’t sprout.
This year I’m going for cool weather crops instead of the warm weathered ones and the fruiting plants. I wanted to make sure I started with things that I could pretty easily succeed with so that my Future Self got her basic experience and could decide where to go from there.
I started to expand into studying areas of gardening that might be applicable next year (such as making my own fertilizer, etc), and got as far as deciding to get a Worm Bin for making Vermicompost for the garden next year. Supposedly the Vermicompost helps the plants fight off insects and some diseases, providing them with nutrients that straight up fertilizer might not.
Me. Raising Worms.
Anyone else see anything wrong with this picture??
Anyways, the bin has been purchased, and tomorrow I go pick up the worms from a relatively local seller. I’m nervous and excited about it.
I’m also transitioning OUT of the manic phase, so I’m really glad I got all that set up and accomplished before this happened.
How do I know that I’m transitioning out of a manic phase?
There’s a few signs.
One of them is that I was spending a lot of time on this one logic puzzle type game that I tend to use when I’m trying to distract my mind from obsessing over something. I was on that game throughout the day, every day.
I also couldn’t seem to read anymore. Everytime I’d try to read a paragraph or such, I’d start to doze off. This is a pretty good sign that my mind just can’t take in anymore information and that it needs a chance to start processing it all and recovering from the whole ordeal.
While IN the manic phase, I felt pressured to DO. A lot of money was spent to keep me in that “Gotta DO” mode. And a lot of information was read to help direct me in terms of what to DO. I was obsessed with each project. Spent the entire days working on it. Did it despite my back killing me and my being barely able to walk. I couldn’t NOT do it. And if I was forced to relax and NOT DO, then I was irritable and restless. I couldn’t sit still for longer than a few minutes. I couldn’t seem to get into the shows I like. I was even dreaming about DO-ing. It was a complete obsession!!!
And now my mind seems to be trying to move away from that obsessiveness. The game helps. I’m finally able to watch shows. I can’t seem to stay awake for very long. I can’t make sense of anything I read. I can barely string a sentence together in real time (speaking-wise). My mind can’t seem to stay focused, and I shouldn’t be driving because my response time is seriously lagging. I feel like I’m in a fog and I’m not even sure if I want to get out of it, much less how. It would just take too much energy to even try!!! I can’t seem to make any decisions, nor plans, and even if I tried, I wouldn’t trust them to be good ones at all.
Today is March 31, 2009. I noticed the changes a few days ago, let’s say somewhere around the 27th. So that’s at least a month and a week of Manic Phase. Over $600 was spent on the gardening alone, with another $700 or so spent on the decluttering part. That’s a lot of frikkin money!!!!
I’m so tired!! I don’t normally sleep during daylight, but I just can’t seem to stay awake lately.
Other than lethargy, I’m not yet too concerned about how low the low will be. I feel joy and ‘goodness’ as I watch the sprouts pop up. Taking care of the plants that are already up is helping to keep me positive I think. There’s also a strong sense of accomplishment which I think will carry over. And this time I’ve got help around the house instead of everything falling onto my too exhausted shoulders to do.
We shall see, we shall see.